Faith

four-minute friday: highlights

Go. So today's my big day. I'm up and at 'em early (where did that phrase come from?) to drive to the big-city for my 11 AM hair appointment. I must confess: I'm nervous!

After my cut (and highlight!) I'm heading to the airport to pick Niel up. Hope he likes it. Especially cause it'll probably never look that good again. There's nothing like that fresh-from-the-salon look. Note to self: Make a point of asking them to show me exactly how to style it so I can do it myself.

Here comes the real bummer: We're spending the night in Joburg to pick up some folks at the airport on Saturday morning. So... That means no "big reveal" until Saturday night or perhaps even Sunday. (GASP!)

Spiderweb: I can't believe with or without you got so many comments. The dialogue took some interesting twists and turns. If you haven't followed the comment conversation, you may want to go back and take a peek.

Okay... Since I'll be gone all day, you'll have to talk amongst yourselves in the comments. What do you anticipate being your high and low today? (That's "kitty-code" for the best and worst part of your day.) And then come back and share what your actual high and low was... Okay. Discuss.

Done.

four-minute friday: nicknames

Go. My mandibular friend and I have been having an ongoing discussion about nicknames for quite a while now. She decided to blog about it. I decided to copy her.

I've come to the conclusion that I'm a nicknamer more than a nicknamee. I love coming up with unique nicknames for friends, although I've never really had many nicknames in my life. I guess I have a tricky name to work with when it comes to nicknaming... I don't know. My mom's called me Midgey Girl since forever (I'm not really sure where it even came from), and my dad and brothers call me Beece. The only other nicknames I've had are what my friends Dave and Amy call me---Lizzy Kitty, Kitty, or Kitten. Long story. Don't ask.

So I'm taking suggestions for nicknames. Let me know whatcha got. We can narrow them down and vote on it.

How 'bout you? What are your nicknames?

Done.

lessons (3 of 5)

Do it afraid. Fear paralyzes, but courage shrugs its shoulders and takes a step anyway. I'd say that most of the time, I don't feel strong/brave/prepared/qualified enough to do what I'm doing. In Angie's comment, she asked how many times I've been tempted to give up. A lot!

Lack of finances, skills, time, and faith have all made me think, at one point or another, that I just can't do this anymore. And then God, in His faithfulness, uses circumstances, people, His Word, or His peace to bring my heart back around again.

I wish my faith didn't waiver as much as it did. I wish I could say I am a courageous leader who is always sure of her steps and confident in what she's doing. I wish I was never tempted to give up. But if I'm honest, none of that is true.

And like a consumer I've been thinking If I could just get a bit more More than my fifteen minutes of faith Then I'd be secure My faith is like shifting sand Changed by every wave My faith is like shifting sand So I stand on grace

lessons (2 of 5)

Here are some more thoughts on lessons I've learned in the past ten years of ministry in Africa. Do what only you can do. Spend your time and energy on that which makes you the strongest asset to your team. Delegation has always been hard for me. I am a perfectionist, and very detail-oriented... so it's hard for me to pass things off to others. For a long time, we didn't have "others" to pass them off to, and I got very comfortable juggling so many things on my own. As our team grew, I learned (slowly) to equip my teammates to help carry the load.

I made a list of the things I want to spend my time doing, and the things that "only I can do" so that when we had the right people, I could start passing things off. Something "only I can do" is be the "face" of the ministry for our partners back in the States (with Niel, of course). Yes, I could have someone else write our newsletters or write email replies to our supporters. But I don't want to. I want to continue having personal contact with the people who make our ministry possible. So I still personally reply to every email we get from our supporters (not always very speedily, although I sure try!). And while I now have some assistance in this area, I still write the final copy for our newsletters, printed letters, brochures, website, etc. It represents us, so I am heavily involved in what the ministry puts out in writing.

We still don't have enough staff for me to only do what only I can do. But we're definitely miles ahead of where we were even just 18 months ago. I probably spend about 40-50% of my time doing what I love and feel specifically called to do. The rest of my time is still spent in other areas. Right now, the 80/20 principle seems impossible, but it is something I am working toward: Spending 80% of my time doing what makes me the strongest asset to our team and ministry, and spending the remaining 20% on the have-to's that I can't avoid being involved in.

Give authority with responsibility. Trust your team; they have strengths in areas you don’t. This is as hard for me as delegation is. I need to constantly remember that just because someone does something differently than I would, it doesn't make it wrong. I have to work hard at times to keep my attitude in check when I know a "better way". I need to get more big-picture oriented and get my brain out of the details sometimes. As long as the end result is right, the means of getting there shouldn't matter.

When it's painfully obvious that someone is better than me at something, it's easier to trust them to do the job. It's when I think I could do it better that I really need to work hard at fully letting go. Trust is something that is a challenge for me, both personally and with ministry responsibilities, but I've grown a lot in the area of trusting our team. We are blessed with some high-caliber staff members and interns who continue to blow me away with their giftedness. They've been a huge part of me learning to let go and trust others to get the job done.

How much of your time do you spend doing what you love/want? Is it hard to trust others with tasks you are good at?
Thoughts, Questions?

four-minute friday: drinking

Go.

I decided to start my day off by watching (AGAIN!) the video I posted yesterday. I laughed just as hard as I did each of the other four times I've seen it.

And it got me thinking about this whole business of loving Jesus and drinking a little. I know everyone has different opinions on the issue of alcohol. But here's mine: I do believe it is possible to do both. Love Jesus. Drink a little.

I love a glass (or two) of red wine with a meal. I don't like beer, but I do drink some ciders. Oh, and there's a local blueberry beer that I enjoy drinking when I'm on Long Island (home sweet home). Mostly because it tastes more like blueberries than beer.

What's your take on drinking?

Oh---And do you want me to order a shirt for you when I order mine?

t-shirt

Done.